The resource you need to see

My client base is primarily women with eating disorders, and in working with them, I tend to see a lot of themes showing up time and again. Sometimes I will notice one central theme showing up a lot in one particular week, and I will find myself pointing my clients in similar directions. This has been one such week, and I wanted to share the theme and the resource with you.

Usually the themes that show up throughout our sessions will be about identifying the eating disorder voice and the healthy voice, using interpersonal relationship skills to deal with other people, or building up mindfulness practices. However, this week it has been different.

This week there are two reoccurring topics: not feeling worthy of accepting her body as it is, and the desire to attain her goal weight where she will finally be happy or healthy or accepted. 

These are not new topics taking place in my office. They are often the very central issues my clients want to talk about, but this week they really stood out because so many were using similar language: I will be happy when I finally weigh…; I absolutely cannot accept myself in this body; If I could just lose X pounds I would be healthy.

So, now let me share the resource with you that I shared with each of them. Dances with Fat is a blog about finding happiness in your life regardless of your body size. The author, Ragen Chastain, is known to educate about body diversity and body acceptance, rail against those who reinforce the cultural ideals that thin is everything, and lament with you about the real struggles people in larger bodies face in this world.

It is only recently that I myself got introduced to her blog, and I am definitely a fan. I hope you will be too. Check back in at my blog in the future for more recommendations!

If you are tired of the dieting cycle, the body hate and the shame, then maybe I can help. If you are in the Vancouver, WA area you can have a free 15-minute phone consultation with me by filling out this form here.


Tamara Werner

Tamara Werner is a counselor, author, speaker, and activist. Her private practice, Get Centered Counseling in Vancouver WA, helps women with food and body issues learn to love themselves, their body, their life, and their relationships. Her life’s work is steeped in personal experience, having fifteen years in recovery for anorexia, in addition to being a breast cancer survivor. An up and coming force in the counseling community, Tamara has been published in a textbook called Treatment Strategies for Substance and Process Addictions, and has sat on a panel at the American Counseling Association Conference, where she spoke to her peers on strategies and tools to use with clients struggling with eating disorders. Having a deep, personal understanding of what it takes to recover from this condition, she seeks to be an example to those she treats, to let them know that recovery is possible.